So I feel what we learned today in Stake Conference is pretty blog worthy. Elder Kies? I think I spelled his name right spoke today on how we are over scheduling our lives and how our "busyness" is replacing spiritual experiences and growth in families. The interesting thing is that these exact thoughts have been on my mind lately...and as a primary presidency we were discussing this topic just a couple weeks ago. ...
Now that school has started up again our scout program in the ward has almost crumbled. Parents believe it is more important for their sons to play football than to stay up on their scouting. It used to be manageable for kids to do both sports and scouts but now that sports are getting all freaky and carried away these days, kids are deciding to do something good instead of doing what is better...Have you thought of the Scout Motto lately? "On my honor I will do my best...To do my duty to God and my country..." in the long run I think I would regret pushing emphasis on some brown ball than a church sponsored program that teaches principles about serving God and the community- it only makes sense.
Here are some of my notes from Elder Kies talk:
*We are waxing cold in our relationships
*We text message and email instead of calling or visiting our friends and family.
*As a generation we don't like to communicate because supposedly we are too busy.
*we are over scheduling our children's lives. He said, "Over scheduling is prompted by the adversary"
*Mothers were not meant to be taxi drivers
*Gospel principles are rarely taught at a soccer game
*by scheduling so many good things we schedule out the Lord
*Being busy is fashionably cool, we aren't as interesting in the world's point of view when we say, "I have nothing planned for Tuesday night, just staying home with the family"
*make it a priority your children are home for family home evening and dinner time.
*make it a priority your youth attend mutual activities (we never called it mutual)
Those are just some of the things I wrote down today...of course having your children involved in things is good but he warned us to listen to the Holy Ghost...and to maybe let your children choose one thing to excel in instead of 3-4 things....but I just want to vent on my feelings about this subject:
Seriously the expectations for kids and sports these days make me kind of confused sometimes. Practices are getting longer, kids are starting earlier, parents are screaming more competitive insane crap from the sidelines, tournaments are always on Sundays now...and now your kids are supposed to be in camps all summer long....no thank you. I have issues with sports- even as a high school athlete, I always promised myself I would never marry a man that would watch endless hours of sports on TV and especially Monday night football...I can't even begin to tell how many times I have thanked Chay for not being a TV sport junky. I couldn't handle it. A good game is fun to watch every now and then...but- to me sports teach some good things and it is good exercise and all but this huge push to be the best is just yucky to me- it is very western philosophy- but I won't go into that-
and what is up with this pre-school epidemic thing going on?- I mean we never had official pre-school growing up and I did just fine. My mom would teach us stuff and I remember Heather's mom, Pat, teaching us the Pledge of Allegiance as she waved this dinky 2 foot American flag but that was about it. Joette was so smart she skipped kindergarten- no pre-school for her either...sure kids like it but why push them away from home sooner than they have to? Maybe my mind will change...but I really don't feel like paying $50 bucks a month for something I can do with a couple other moms in the ward for free...a friend of mine is paying $100 a month for her child's pre-school. ouch!
and I was in Target the other day and I noticed "KinderMats" sleeping mats for kindergartners to sleep on- what???? It made me miss Kenzie just looking at them- just a couple years ago our school district turned kindergarten into full days...because there was such a high demand for it due to working mothers who couldn't work the schedule- What? My kid is not going to be sleeping on some hard floor when she can come home and do the same thing...I am already thinking of some alternative solutions...Chay is so patient with me- thank you Chay. I will figure this all out somehow and probably relax a little with time...
ok I am done. I am usually open minded but some things just don't go over all too smoothly with me-