Friday, January 09, 2009
our founding fathers...not the most attractive men but still...
Ok so did you know you can learn a lot about parenting by studying the writings of the founding fathers- and the Constitution? I have yet a lot to learn.
But one thing I have learned from their writings is that these men were...well they were anti-enablers.
Our children shouldn't get bailed out from us parents.
The same way the banks and the car companies shouldn't get bailed out either...or the porn industry for that matter. yes you read that right
The reason why I believe so many of the younger generation is so supportive of the new pop culture socialistic views is because that was the kind of environment they were raised in. Kids these days just don't have to work for anything anymore. School, missions, money spent on sports, presents, cars, cell phones, gas money, clothes, I-pods- are all kind of handed over to them on a silver platter it seems. We can give to our children obviously...but on a silver platter? We are enabling our children...even with good intentions- we are still enabling them...and with that- gently forcing, manipulating, paying or guilt tripping our kids to succeed slowly takes away their moral reasoning.
When we enable a child,- growth like self reliance, agency, character, and the pursuit of happiness is interrupted- don't you think? Do we want our child to get an A in history or do we want him to love history and become fascinated in its stories and impact on the world. Do we want our child to get a degree or do we want our child to learn the value of education?...and sometimes that might mean paying part or all of school themselves or taking out a dreadful student loan. Sometimes learning the hard way is the only way...
I sometimes find myself enabling Kenzie...and when I finally realize it (sometimes it takes awhile- months sometimes) and will ask her for my forgiveness and then tell her she needs to sleep in her own bed...and if she wants a cookie she needs to dump the bathroom garbage first (really only because I hate dumping the bathroom garbage- but you see my point)Sometimes I enable her just by being in a bad mood and taking things out on her...it is like I suck the good day right out of her- not fair!
ok so...the bailouts are going to wreck our country...they will only enable us and we will become more and more dependent on the government for help. We will lose the American fire to succeed, to learn from failure, to grow, to prosper, to be happy-
Companies can fail. Our children can fail. It will only make the success more rewarding. ...and you know I hate to fail...and I would love to be bailed out so I wouldn't have to deal with the yuckies of life- but what does that teach me? It only makes me weaker- walking with a crutch, preparing to fall again and again.
Sometimes I find myself misinterpreting the meaning of happiness saying- if only I had this, if only I could do that, if only my house was like this...then I would be happy. Essentially the government these days are misinterpreting it too by convincing us welfare, government power, bailouts, funding this, making laws for that will make us happy but they are only enabling us by taking away our God-given rights to choose, to self govern, to learn from our mistakes, to work hard- happiness is actually robbed when we are bailed out- don't you agree?
oh and nothing too relevant...but
"When all is said and done, America will understand that Michael Moore smells like pancakes." Glenn Beck
fight for freedom friday
Posted by April at 8:31 AM